It seems like human nature if we are told ten positive things and one negative, we tend to focus on the negative. For some, that can get into our heads and literally ruin our day. It has also been well documented through research that we have to work through adversity to truly gain satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment. If you close your eyes and think of your greatest accomplishment or what you feel the most proud about, chances are that it involves something that had some initial set back. Your perseverance to overcome that obstacle leads to the positive feelings that you feel today. However, it likely was difficult hearing that negative message.
So this brings up the question of what's your story? What daily message to you have to give yourself to overcome some of the challenges you may be feeling? For some, it might be the search for the "silver lining." For example, the pandemic has caused a number of routines to change drastically, While it has been difficult, there are likely some good things that have come out of it. To take the truly global view, the planet has seen a reduction os smog and other man-made environmental damages.
It comes down to making up your story. What is the message that you want to hear? Is it going to be one of dejection or is it going to be one of "can-do" attitude and overcoming the shortcoming. After all, the reward on the other side of the set-back is one of positive feelings and a sense of accomplishment. Time to start thinking about how you want to talk to yourself and develop your story.
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